Note: This is an archived blog post from an old personal blog, On The Contrary. Please see this post for more details
This article is based purely from logical thinking, and not out of psychological research of any sort.
So back in high-school there were various things we could have been like the perfectionist, the sportsmen and so on. This article focuses on the bullies and the victims.
Contrary to regular belief, not all bullies are the same. We’ve all heard that usual statement of how they’re all the same or how they’re all cowards. I don’t think that a guy willing to beat the crap out of you is a coward. The modern day bullies can be anyone, and through observation it seems that bullies aren’t like the ones in movies anymore. Bullies these days don’t just stop at picking on smaller people they see as nerds or geeks anymore, nowadays bullies stand as independent figures that victimize anyone they can.
To me, the reasons bullies exist can be summed up in a few reasons.
The bully may do this because he wants to receive attention. By doing anything rebelious, it is obvious that attention is received both when he/she is caught and forcefully received from the victim that they bully. A bully may also want to show the world that he/she is independent and by showing the world that they are above others, this will give them satisfaction in thinking that they are able to take care of themselves.
Lunch money or any other physical loot can be plundered from the victims. Apart from this, other gains such as power itself is involved. This power is obviously power through fear which can be easily related to Hitler. So do these bullies try to be Hitler? Hah, maybe.
All in all, most bullies would probably do what they do to gain respect, to show the world that they are superior to everyone else. Most teenage bullies gain their larger size through their upbringing thus it is ironic how they use this ‘given’ frame for such uses.
So why do people call bullies cowards anyway? Tell your son to stand up to the bully because the bully is just a coward and your son will be shitting teeth he swallowed after getting them smacked in. Bullies do what they do to show that they’re more powerful, why would a coward do it? Nowadays, there aren’t many bullies that are ‘insecure’. Do you think saying out loud “Hey! I know you cry under your blanket every night you insecure coward! Thats all you do!” is gonna make him feel guilty and sob to his Mummy and Daddy? Uh, no. He’s gonna bring a fist to your face so fast, you won’t even be able to cuss. Bullies aren’t cowards – even if they were, fuck with them and they’ll probably have connections to fuck you deeper than what you did. Sucks doesn’t it? The only thing bullies are probably afraid of are either their parents (not likely) and the police so yeah, thats the only way to handle them – or you could let your son just go through it like all normal kids would have to do and not humiliating him in front of his friends and that girl he has a crush on.
Bullies continue to exist because of obvious reasons right? Bullies get it all! Power, control, wealth (little exaggerated), respect and even the chicks sometimes. So whats there not to love? Apart from the occassional parental arguements and police run-ins, you’ll be living a life like a teenage pimp. To be a bully though, you’d probably have to have a larger frame than the average kid-next-door and be have a face that scares him easily just so you don’t have to get your hands dirty to run your extortion.
“When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
PS: The above quote is utter bullshit.